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Upbringing children

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Created: 2006-07-31 14:34:30

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AN irony is that some people who want children cannot have them,while others who have children do not want them.Parents may reject their children in many ways.Somtimes it is done openly and brutally as in case where infants are abandoned or where children are beaten or starved. Usually the rejecting parents do not deliberately set out to make their children feel unwanted, but the end result is the same. We see this happening in families where children are sent out on a round of a boarding schools, military schools,and summer camps,with an occasional stay at home, or where the care and training of children is turned over to nurses, servants or relatives who prvide the child with everything except parental love. Few children are deceived by the form which rejection takes and explaination offered for it. They sense the emotional undertones,the lack of intimate reponse , the frustration of their need to be loved and, in one way or other, react to these feelings. Some children learn that it does no good to fight against feeling of being unwanted and accept the situation passively, often with deep-seated feeling of worthlessness and defeat. Most rejected children have been hurt and want to hurt back.Some parents rule their children with an iron hand in the belief that high standard must be set for a child and he must be disciplined to work for them.Parental dominence of this type usually result in chid battering.This is not an uncommon syndrome, but its etiology is quite infrequently not appreciated because of the reluctance on the part of the medical practitioners to accept assault by parents on their children. Such victims, not infrequently, present themselves with ribs and colar bone fractures, skull fractures, brain lacerations and long bone fractures.In some of the reported cases ,death occures due the assaociated head injuries, with intra- cranial blood collection, Hopefully, chid bashers can be recognized before a serious injury is taken place,but even with optimum care 15-20 of the victims are beaten again. There is a sensible way of treating children.Treat themas though they were young adults,let your behaviour always be objective.You must kiss them once on the forehead when they say good night.Shake hands with them in the morning.Give them a pat on the head if they have made an extraordinary good job of a difficult task.Try it out . In a week time you will find how it is easy to be perfectively objective with your child. Ultimately,psychiatric, social and medical attention should be rendered to both child and the parents.

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